Thoughts on Socialisation in the Wee Hours of the Morning

01 Oct

Non-homeschoolers are often worried about the socialisation of homeschooled children. Homeschooling parents worry about the same thing which is why they remove their children from schools.

Non-homeschoolers use the word ‘socialisation’ for what happens in schools. Homeschooling parents define it as ‘socialising’.

Non-homeschoolers worry about the number of socialising opportunities homeschooled children have. Homeschooling parents worry about the quality and variety of these socialising opportunities.

Non-homeschoolers believe that homeschooled children are isolated from other children. Homeschooling parents who spend their week driving their children from one activity to another sometimes fantasize about such isolation.

Non-homeschoolers wonder how homeschooled children will cope in the big wide world. Homeschooling parents worry about this too, which is why they expose them to the big wide world from day one.

Non-homeschoolers suggest that homeschooled children won’t know how to cope with bullies. Homeschooling parents agree that their children won’t know how to tolerate victimisation and will do what most adults do – solve the problem.

Non-homeschoolers are concerned that homeschooled children will have an ignorant view of others if they don’t go to school with children from other cultures or with children of differing physical or mental abilities. Homeschooling parents are concerned with this limited view as they believe we should be friends with people for who they are rather than what they can teach us about differences.

Non-homeschoolers pity homeschooled childen because they won’t have the same significant social events to look forward to and back on. Homeschooling parents breathe a sigh of relief knowing their children won’t have the aftermath of these events to live with.

Non-homeschoolers think homeschooled children are shy if they are unlike their boisterous, self-consumed school counterparts. Homeschooling parents consider it to be pure joy when their children are considered ‘unsocialised’ by this comparison.

Non-homeschoolers believe that social skills are taught by regular exposure to their peers. Homeschooling parents believe this to be true. which is why they prefer instead for their children to learn social skills from mature adults.

Non-homeschoolers believe socialisation is the result of what happens within the four walls of a classroom. Homeschooling parents agree that sadly this is true.

Yes socialising leads to socialisation. Homeschoolers agree. This is why we do things differently.


Posted by on October 1, 2010 in Socialisation, Starting Homeschooling


2 responses to “Thoughts on Socialisation in the Wee Hours of the Morning

  1. Belinda

    October 1, 2010 at 5:40 am

    I so enjoyed reading through this and thinking that, at the end of it all, all parents want the same thing for their children; we just have very different ideas of how to attain it. Though I don’t think of our decision to homeschool as ‘homeschooling, good; everyone else, bad,’ I can read through what you’ve stated, nodding, and then realize that often the goal is the same; we simply take the road less traveled by, and that makes all the difference.

  2. Tracey

    October 1, 2010 at 12:27 pm

    I do agree. We each want the same thing but we both see what each other is doing as “wrong” partly to validate our own paths.

    However as a homeschooler, who opposes school as inherent flawed, I do believe school socialisation is problematic to say the least. I probably wouldn’t go as far to say it’s “bad” as children do seem to survive the experience but I think that’s a sign of their resilience rather than a glimmer of hope for schools.


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